I don't know what to say at a time like this. I was shocked when I heard the news.
Shirley always give me an impression as a confident and strong woman. As she chose you to be her husband, I am sure she trust you to be a good father - a father that can provide all the love and comfort for you child. Take time to think about the past wonderful moments with Shirley and also think about what kind of father she want you to be. Cherish what you have and being a good father. It is ok to cry and it is ok to grief. Remember difficult time will past. Call me any time you want, I am here for you.
As a person who believes in life after death, I think Shirley is always around. Here is the message I would like to share with you:
In a beautiful blue lagoon on a clear day,
Gone where? Gone from sight. That is all.
Henry Van Dyke